We currently have two daughters, Lyla and Kailani, whose personalities are wonderfully different and whose bond is one of the greatest joys in our lives. Lyla is six and deeply imaginative. She builds zoos out of Magna-Tiles, creates elaborate LEGO worlds, assigns herself pretend homework, and loves baking cookies and sourdough with Mommy. No job feels too small to Lyla, whether she is helping her sister, throwing something away, or making sure a friend feels included at school. She has a remarkable capacity for empathy and prays for her classmates each night. Kailani is four and seems to be made entirely of joy and energy. She struts down the sidewalk with her “pretty girl walk,” races in her “fast shoes,” and often finishes with an impromptu break-dance move. She waves to everyone, loves to snuggle, and constantly asks, “Where’s Lyla?” whenever her sister is out of sight. She is original, fearless, and full of life. Building a strong, lifelong sibling bond is central to our parenting. The girls create, celebrate, and care for one another, while building their own unique identities, and we often remind them, “When one of us wins, every one wins.” They already pray for their new sibling, discuss where their car seat and bed will go, talk about what they hope to teach them, and imagine the games, dances, traditions, and everyday moments they will share. Adoption is already part of the way they understand our family’s future, and they are genuinely excited to welcome another child with love, curiosity, and a ready-made place in their sisterhood.

Our three small Shih Tzus, Gia, Mozzie, and Daisy, bring enormous joy and personality to our home. Each came to us through foster-to-adopt and arrived with a unique story, temperament, and set of lovable quirks. Today, they move through life like a tiny sibling trio, rarely far from one another and always eager to be part of whatever our family is doing.

Adoption has been part of our hopes for our family since before we were married. We talked about it early in our relationship and committed to pursuing adoption whether or not we were also able to have biological children. We have always dreamed of a large, loving family, and we always believed family could be formed many ways.

We feel deeply called to provide a loving, stable, and supportive home for the child whose life becomes connected with ours. We also understand that adoption begins with a decision that may carry tremendous complexity, grief, courage, and love. Your child would be raised in a home filled with warmth, laughter, faith, opportunity to grow and be who they are, and a deeply involved family we’ve chosen.

We would honor your child’s story, speak about adoption with honesty and respect, and ensure that your child always knows how deeply loved they are by everyone involved in their story. We are not seeking to replace anyone. We hope to expand the circle of people who will love, support, and celebrate your child throughout life.

Our extended family is a close and active part of our everyday lives. Both sets of grandparents live nearby, and our children know them as “Gran-pa” and “E-ma” and “Nana” and “Pop Pop.” They are present for everything from soccer games and gymnastics practice to school pickups, Sunday church, and family dinners. A typical weekend may include cheering together at a high school football game, grilling on Sunday, walking the three puppies, or spending time outside swinging and kicking a soccer ball around.

Katie’s sister works in the arts in Los Angeles, but she visits regularly and makes it a priority to be present for birthdays and special moments with her nieces. Brent’s brother, Connor, lives locally and works in a corporate job. We believe in the importance of a village, not just our family by blood.

Our children are not only surrounded by family, but by close friends who have become the family we have chosen. These relationships are filled with consistency, laughter, joy, support, different experiences, and genuine involvement.

Our entire village is incredibly excited about our adoption plan and already looks forward to welcoming your child with the same love, presence, and sense of belonging that define our family.

We live in Dallas, Texas, in a safe, walkable neighborhood that is close knit and inclusive while still offering all the opportunities and benefits of a large city. Our street includes everyone from retirees to families with newborns, and neighbors genuinely look out for one another. It is common for several families to gather in the street for an impromptu weekly conversation while children play nearby. The neighborhood also hosts traditions that bring everyone together, including a back-to-school picnic, park meet-ups, and a Halloween celebration when the street closes so children can safely trick-or-treat.

Our ranch-style home looks quaint from the front but has been thoughtfully expanded over the years to include five bedrooms and plenty of space for family, visitors, and play. Four rocking chairs sit on our front patio, and we often picture adding another chair as our family grows. Inside, our home is filled with memories, unique estate-sale finds, reimagined vintage furniture, puzzles, art easels, and spaces for imaginative play. Our backyard has plenty of green grass, a playground with swings and two slides, raised garden beds, and room to run, host friends, and enjoy time together. As a family who loves being active and outside, nearby are many parks, a running trail, a YMCA where we regularly swim, and a highly rated public elementary we choose to attend because it is known for its racial and socioeconomic diversity. We love that the children in our family will grow up surrounded by neighbors, classmates, and friends from many different backgrounds, experiences, and cultures.

Thank you for taking the time to learn about our family. We cannot fully understand everything you may be feeling as you consider adoption, but we recognize that the decisions before you carry enormous weight and courage. We hope this letter gives you an honest sense of who we are, how we love, and the kind of home and family life we are prepared to offer.

We have two daughters, Lyla and Kailani, who are already making space in their hearts for a new brother or sister. Lyla is thoughtful, imaginative, and deeply caring. She prays for her classmates at night, notices when someone needs to be included, and takes great pride in helping others. Kailani is full of joy, energy, and personality. She waves to strangers, runs everywhere in her “fast shoes,” and makes nearly everyone around her laugh. Together, they talk about what they will teach a new sibling, imagine the games they will play, and include this child in our family’s nightly prayers. At dinner, when we share what we are grateful for, we sometimes speak with gratitude for the child we have not yet met. Our home is filled with movement, warmth, and everyday traditions. We gather on our front patio in four rocking chairs and often talk about adding one more. We spend time outside on the swings, kick soccer balls across the yard, walk our three tiny Shih Tzus, bake cookies, build LEGO sets, paint at the easel, and turn ordinary evenings into family dance parties. Our extended family lives nearby and is deeply involved in our lives. Grandparents attend games, pick the girls up for special dates, join us for Sunday church and dinner, and celebrate both the big milestones and the small moments. Close friends are also part of our family village and are present with as much or even more consistency and love as relatives

We promise to raise this child with honesty, respect, stability, and deep love. Adoption will be woven naturally into family conversations, photographs, traditions, and the way we tell the story of how our family came together. We will speak about you with gratitude, warmth, and admiration. We want this child to know that their story includes many people who love them and that the decision you make comes from a place of strength and courage and love only you can fully understand. We are committed to sending letters and pictures so you can continue to see this child grow. We are also open to exchanging emails, phone calls, and future visits, depending on the relationship we build together and what feels healthy and comfortable for everyone involved. We hope for openness rooted in honesty, mutual respect, and a shared commitment to this child’s well-being.

Should you choose us, we will never take that trust lightly. We will provide a home filled with love, hope, joy, optimism, opportunity to be yourself, laughter, cultural awareness, strong family relationships, and people who show up and care. Most of all, we will make sure this child grows up feeling known, celebrated, secure, and profoundly loved.

Brent & Katie